Can I stay committed to possibility?

Choosing possibility over limitation.

When there’s something in our lives we want to usher in – a new work chapter, a new relationship, a personal project or new routine  – anything where we go into some exploration or uncertainty, this space is fertile ground for two predominant experiences: a sense of possibility or a sense of limitation. 

At any moment, we can tune in and recognize, where am I right now? Am I in a feeling of openness and possibility around this? Or, living in some limited ideas about how this is going to go? 

If that sense doesn’t come easily, here are a few more ideas about how we might recognize it. 

A sense of possibility, for me, carries a feeling of trust, whereas limitation, has a flavor of fear or worry. Some version of, here are the ways this isn’t going to go well. 

When I stay committed to possibility, that doesn’t require banishing thoughts of limitation, but rather not entertaining them so seriously. Not seeing them as truth or reality. They are natural passengers on the road trip of uncertainty – but I don’t want them driving the car. In fact, my only job is to pay attention to who’s driving the car.

It can be easy to focus solely on the tangible steps and actions we might be taking in our exploration (job searching, dating, house-hunting, etc.). Figuring out the what to do. But what about how we do it? 

Why is this important? 

Because when we come from more trust, more openness, more possibility: 

We sustain the energy to stay in the process longer (because it’s not unpleasant)

We take more risks and are more open to new and inspired ideas (that fear or worry would have us turn away from). 

So when we’re next facing something new and uncertain. Something that kicks up our insecure thinking or our fear. What if we prioritized the feeling we were coming from? The how, as well as the what. What if we stayed committed to a sense of possibility over limitation?